Hi all, I'm having a lot of trouble with my current family situation at the moment... and I really need advice on what to do
Okay, before I start I must say that I do respect my mother and thank her for everything she's done for me.
My current family situation is as follows...: (summary)
My Dad and Mother divorced when I was a young child at 2 years of age
I have a stepdad and two step-siblings age 14 and 7
We have been living in Bundoora for the past 10 years
An opportunity came and I managed to make around $150k, mum takes it all and spends it on two cars for the family and other rubbish (basically all gone, mum didn't care about the future and didnt save it or put it away in an investment even though she has a mortgage)
I have a car and $30k in the bank left that she agreed to give me for earning the money
My Dad is now facing unemployment and my mum is no longer receiving support from the government as my sister is now past age 6 ( and she is now using my $30k to pay for all her bills, Im worried on things after this backup source is gone im guessing in about two years), but she does not save money, she loves to unncessarily waste money even though she has no source of income
My mum refuses to work after a long discussion and basically told me I must support her and pay off all her bills and mortgage as soon as I find a job after university? And if I don't she abuses me and says im an ungrateful child for everything she has done (Without future plans to find a job herself) <---- (I am thinking this is unreasonable and where is my say in all this?)
I'm in first year university at melbourne studying commerce at the moment and I'm writing this because I have no idea what I should do, I feel like I should help her but then I will have to give up alot of my own personal goals and other decisions in order to help my mum because she refuses to find a job? I mean, I can't just let her sit there and do nothing right??
Sigh....