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HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« on: May 08, 2019, 09:16:37 pm »
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Hey Guys,

As declared by the title, this is my first digital journal where I will be recording and reflecting on my HSC journey with an ill family member. I intended to create this sooner, but I hesitated because the subject was still very raw and sensitive to me. However now by sharing my personal experience on such a heavy topic I will strive to provide a genuine perspective surrounding the ways I have juggled the HSC and the care-taking responsibilities of my ill family member. Also, just a heads up I will be referencing medical terminology which I will have a glossary for at the bottom of my posts.

Now to not leave you guys any further in the dark, I will provide a brief background:

It was around September, a month before year 12 begun when my Mother was called in to take some general medical tests. First upon hearing this, it never initially concerned me as I believed this was the standard routine to check it her health was overall in good condition. However, when the test results returned she was recommended to take further specialised tests. Fast forward around 2-3 weeks and my family was called in for a doctors meeting where we received the news of my Mothers breast cancer diagnosis. Immediately, my entire body felt numb and my emotional process system malfunctioned into overdrive. I resorted to bottling my emotions instead of properly processing how I felt by discussing how I was feeling to trusted individuals in my school community as well to friends and family in general. I felt as if no one could fully understand the full depth of my emotions. In Term 1 2018, I attempted to plaster on a mask of optimism and ignored how I was feeling in the mist of piling homework and assignments on my doorstep. I found myself constantly feeling being pulled by strings towards multiple commitments (i.e HSC workload, co curricular and being a part time carer). Soon, it was no surprise when I found myself feeling burnout towards the end of the term with the adoption of some poor habits(i.e inconsistent work routine and late nighters). However, during the summer holidays I took the opportunity to fully let myself adjust to a completely different lifestyle. Also, Due to the early detection, I am grateful that during the break my Mother had a mastectomy which currently is being followed by chemotherapy.

Jumping back into present day, I now say that despite the seeming chaotic experiences life has thrown at me, I have accepted it and continue to believe in my capacity to handle the HSC in light of the confronting revelation. I would be lying to say that I feel 100% now even if has been many months since the diagnosis due to continual challenges. But, I am becoming better at adapting my routine to suit my multiple responsibilities as well as shifting my values and perspective surrounding the HSC.

mastectomy- removal of a whole breast
chemotherapy - use of anti-cancer drugs to destroy cancer cells

To conclude, here is a quote to summarise my HSC 2019 mood from my favourite musical Hamilton: "I will not throw away my shot"  ;)

Adieu,
C   :)







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Re: HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2019, 10:27:03 pm »
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Very excited to see your journal! So sorry to hear about all that is going on with your mother in the backdrop of the HSC. If there's anything we can do to help as a forum community, do reach out and let us know  :)

Also huge musical theatre tragic here so loving how you're deriving optimism from Hamilton  8)
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Re: HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« Reply #2 on: May 08, 2019, 11:43:23 pm »
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Hey Guys,

As declared by the title, this is my first digital journal where I will be recording and reflecting on my HSC journey with an ill family member. I intended to create this sooner, but I hesitated because the subject was still very raw and sensitive to me. However now by sharing my personal experience on such a heavy topic I will strive to provide a genuine perspective surrounding the ways I have juggled the HSC and the care-taking responsibilities of my ill family member. Also, just a heads up I will be referencing medical terminology which I will have a glossary for at the bottom of my posts.

Now to not leave you guys any further in the dark, I will provide a brief background:

It was around September, a month before year 12 begun when my Mother was called in to take some general medical tests. First upon hearing this, it never initially concerned me as I believed this was the standard routine to check it her health was overall in good condition. However, when the test results returned she was recommended to take further specialised tests. Fast forward around 2-3 weeks and my family was called in for a doctors meeting where we received the news of my Mothers breast cancer diagnosis. Immediately, my entire body felt numb and my emotional process system malfunctioned into overdrive. I resorted to bottling my emotions instead of properly processing how I felt by discussing how I was feeling to trusted individuals in my school community as well to friends and family in general. I felt as if no one could fully understand the full depth of my emotions. In Term 1 2018, I attempted to plaster on a mask of optimism and ignored how I was feeling in the mist of piling homework and assignments on my doorstep. I found myself constantly feeling being pulled by strings towards multiple commitments (i.e HSC workload, co curricular and being a part time carer). Soon, it was no surprise when I found myself feeling burnout towards the end of the term with the adoption of some poor habits(i.e inconsistent work routine and late nighters). However, during the summer holidays I took the opportunity to fully let myself adjust to a completely different lifestyle. Also, Due to the early detection, I am grateful that during the break my Mother had a mastectomy which currently is being followed by chemotherapy.

Jumping back into present day, I now say that despite the seeming chaotic experiences life has thrown at me, I have accepted it and continue to believe in my capacity to handle the HSC in light of the confronting revelation. I would be lying to say that I feel 100% now even if has been many months since the diagnosis due to continual challenges. But, I am becoming better at adapting my routine to suit my multiple responsibilities as well as shifting my values and perspective surrounding the HSC.

mastectomy- removal of a whole breast
chemotherapy - use of anti-cancer drugs to destroy cancer cells

To conclude, here is a quote to summarise my HSC 2019 mood from my favourite musical Hamilton: "I will not throw away my shot"  ;)

Adieu,
C   :)

I hope this amalgamation of events has nurtured your sense of empathy, as our society is in high demand for people who possess the ability to understand other's chaotic experiences.
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Re: HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« Reply #3 on: May 09, 2019, 12:43:21 am »
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Welcome to the forums! Such an incredibly honest and brave first post to make in an online space - Genuinely happy for you in that you seem to be looking at this optimistically and taking it as part of your HSC experience. Maybe this journal will end up helping others who have similar experiences in the future!

And of course, best wishes to your mum in her treatment - Rooting for her, hope the chemo is going as well as can be hoped! :)

Could I ask a bit more about you? EG - What subjects do you do, do you have any goals for what you will be doing next year? :)

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Re: HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« Reply #4 on: May 09, 2019, 02:48:46 pm »
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Welcome to the forums! Such an incredibly honest and brave first post to make in an online space - Genuinely happy for you in that you seem to be looking at this optimistically and taking it as part of your HSC experience. Maybe this journal will end up helping others who have similar experiences in the future!

And of course, best wishes to your mum in her treatment - Rooting for her, hope the chemo is going as well as can be hoped! :)

Could I ask a bit more about you? EG - What subjects do you do, do you have any goals for what you will be doing next year? :)

Thanks for the warm welcome! I definitely created this journal to help other individuals in the future who are in similar circumstances to mine  :)
Regarding HSC talk, my subjects are: Music 1, English Advanced, Ancient History, History Extension, Business Studies and SOR 1
As a majority of my subjects are humanities based, I aim to study secondary education or international business  ;)

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Re: HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« Reply #5 on: May 09, 2019, 02:55:25 pm »
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Very excited to see your journal! So sorry to hear about all that is going on with your mother in the backdrop of the HSC. If there's anything we can do to help as a forum community, do reach out and let us know  :)

Also huge musical theatre tragic here so loving how you're deriving optimism from Hamilton  8)

Thanks for the greeting   :)  Musical theatre is my weakness  ;)

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Re: HANDLING HSC: ILL FAMILY MEMBER
« Reply #6 on: May 19, 2019, 08:44:34 am »
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Hey Guys,

This week I had to brush up on my baking skills from year eight food tech as my family hosted a fundraiser for the Cancer Council called 'The Biggest Morning Tea'. Besides the fact that I can make killer toasties, it is evident that baking is definitely not my prowess. Therefore, instead of being in the kitchen I utilised my others skills elsewhere in the planning and organising of the event: location, invitations and dishes etc. Whilst there was numerous tasks to do, the constant collaboration between my family members and myself provided me with assistance and clarity, making the event a huge success!  I am also glad to announce that we raised $137.65!! ;D

In regards to balancing my role with this event and school, I am not going to lie, it was pretty damn hard but manageable. I woke up everyday from weeks 1-3 at 5am to complete event duties and then used my free periods at school and normal after hour study schedule to complete homework and major work tasks. This weeks agenda was tough with my HIX major hovering over my shoulder. Twice this week I have changed my question and it is frustrating as now I have to change my focus. Initially, I was investigating how postmodern relativism has influenced historians interpretations on the dancing plague however I had to discard this due to a lack of postmodernist perspectives on the subject. Instead, I have shifted my focus onto investigating causation. I am hopeful that I will find an interesting angle to work with.

Till next time, adieu
:)