You’re right – marriage as a legitimizing action isn’t really necessary anymore, for a lot of people. It was a moral necessity for God-honoring people, but modern thinking has gone on a bit of a tangent from God lately. (e.g. same-sex marriage, IVF, euthanasia - society is finding themselves increasingly immersed in their own interests, not a god's).
Nick, I personally think people want to marry because that makes you more than just boyfriend and girlfriend, or best friends, it makes you family. You become part of that person’s line, and you become part of theirs. It creates a foundation. That’s pretty cool, so if you want to get married, it’s easy to rationalize. Besides, how fun would honeymoons be?
The thought of marriage kind of scares me, I guess. In my experience, marriage isn’t that happy a bond. It’s normal, but you’re tied to someone for your whole life, someone who will almost always put their needs above yours. And as I grew up in a church, it’s a permanent, quite oppressive bond that I can’t see much good in, save for financial gain. Looking at marriage from that perspective, who would want that? It’s an awfully negative way of looking at it, but I’ve found happy marriages to be rare things. (wow, way to have commitment issues, Poet)
If I ever get into a relationship I’m happy in, I don’t think I’ll feel the need to pursue marriage. If it's offered to me, maybe I'll say yes.
But who knows? Maybe I’ll change my mind when I’m so smitten I can’t walk in a straight line.