I'm a pretty envious person. Always comparing, comparing, comparing. Not jealous of money or material possessions or "success" or cool holidays
if I'm going to be jealous, I've got to do it in a morally superior way so I can feel better than y'all , but of:
a) their character traits, skills or personality
b) the attention or love they get from others I love.
Typically, I have a hard time admitting this emotion to myself because I'm ashamed of it. I'm just trying to become aware of it, label it as envy, sit with it, breathe, and bring myself back to simple truths:
- there's enough to go round! it's not a zero-sum situation
- the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
- why waste time comparing?
- there will always be many better and many worse than me - so what?
- it's okay to not be perfect
I'm also trying to consciously wish success and happiness to those I'm jealous of. I mentally send them good wishes, hoping that they get more of the love or charisma or work ethic or wit or success that I'm envying. Sending silent well-wishes to others I respect and love always helps me feel better. And then I try to find inspiration from them and use them as role-models.
I don't have the answer though. I guess it's a long day-in day-out process of awareness and gently redirecting my natural patterns.