Ranting

[almostdonewithschooling]

Not your typical ‘rant’ but I’ve been friends with this person for several years (11+). we have a rlly good relationship and we seem to get along well. Every time I log into my social media, I always see her tagging our friendship group(everyday) and she doesn’t tag me in it. Ik your just like wtf, it’s just tags, but if you put yourself in my position, it stings a lot. Apart from this, I just feel like it’s so hard to make friends or socialise with people. How do you deal with it?

[Lumenoria]

Maybe start tagging her in things and she'll reciprocate? x

[sweetiepi]

Not your typical ‘rant’ but I’ve been friends with this person for several years (11+). we have a rlly good relationship and we seem to get along well. Every time I log into my social media, I always see her tagging our friendship group(everyday) and she doesn’t tag me in it. Ik your just like wtf, it’s just tags, but if you put yourself in my position, it stings a lot. Apart from this, I just feel like it’s so hard to make friends or socialise with people. How do you deal with it?

Hey, have you tried messaging her about how you feel about it? I know that isn't really of too much help, but maybe it'll open up a line of communication before it escalates into a bigger problem.

[technodisney]

Not your typical ‘rant’ but I’ve been friends with this person for several years (11+). we have a rlly good relationship and we seem to get along well. Every time I log into my social media, I always see her tagging our friendship group(everyday) and she doesn’t tag me in it. Ik your just like wtf, it’s just tags, but if you put yourself in my position, it stings a lot. Apart from this, I just feel like it’s so hard to make friends or socialise with people. How do you deal with it?

I don't know what sort of person you are.

But I have a friend who started getting seemingly randomly excluded all of a sudden by a certain member of this friendship group, but she tried to deal with it by constantly ranting to me about how "evil" this person is, which just made the situation worse as my friend developed a really negative view of this person because she kept going on about it and that has prevented the possibility of the friendship being healed.

I would say to nicely confront the person asking why, if you sound angry and annoyed you will probably come out worse than how it started.

Chances are it is just some sort of misunderstanding and not that this long term friend doesn't care about you anyway. A nice conversation should fix this I think.


EDIT: Oh and just saw your second bit.
In terms of finding it hard to socialise with people I would say you are actually much better than you think you just doubt yourself. I would describe myself as socially inept but I have found that when I tell myself I'm not and step out of my comfort zone I can actually socialise well. Also, don't fall into the trap of thinking you need a massive variety of friends, you can just have a couple you are really close with and that is enough, the more you have the more chance that someone is a "fake friend" anyway. I just have a couple of friends which I am super close with and I know for a fact that they truly care for me, and that is all I need.

[EEEEEEP]

Not your typical ‘rant’ but I’ve been friends with this person for several years (11+). we have a rlly good relationship and we seem to get along well. Every time I log into my social media, I always see her tagging our friendship group(everyday) and she doesn’t tag me in it. Ik your just like wtf, it’s just tags, but if you put yourself in my position, it stings a lot. Apart from this, I just feel like it’s so hard to make friends or socialise with people. How do you deal with it?

I used to think like that, but sometimes don't take things personally (yet) ^^. Simply ask her why she is doing that ... but a few pointers that I can give are:
- Tone Matters (If you are passive,... don't expect a nice answer)
- Do not attack her, or get really aggressive with questioning (that can really backfire)
- Do not make assumptions about said person (Not helpful and can backfire)
- Do not take out your frustration on her at any moment