I agree with the posters above, but I'm sort of imagining myself in the position of going against my parents, and honestly that's something I find so hard to do, even if their reasons are racist/illegitimate. It's something I struggle a lot with in general, whether that is from simple arguments about how to do the dishes to something more personal like choosing sexual/romantic partners, and I can see this being a problem for folks like me, who come from a culturally 'restrictive' background. It may vary from person to person, but it can be absolutely difficult on an emotional level to run counter to your parent's wishes. On one hand you really like this person and would love to be in a relationship with them. But on the other, you also want the emotional support or at least the facade of it from your parents, because you've grown up doing everything you can to please them and it's really shitty and you know this but you do it anyway because in the past you've tried to rebel and it didn't feel good/right. You start thinking about Freud and wonder why it is that his theories aren't 100% true when it explains your situation so well, and you're back where you started before the rebellion with perhaps five steps back from where you last were. It's sort of hard to explain and maybe it's a tad bit irrational. I just find having disapproving parents incredibly painful and emotionally soul-sucking and a worse alternative than the other which is to not date the person that will bring about this episode. I'm not justifying this position and saying that this is a healthy way of dealing with independence/your life, but I can understand absolutely if someone would rather their parents be happy than date a person which might make them unhappy. It sucks, but some of us come from backgrounds that really make free will an impossible paradox where you can't really separate yourself from the 'pack'.