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Hi everyone!
I'm curious if you guys feel that being away from people has perhaps changed how you think about some things/ if you've been able to discover things about yourself/etc
Please feel free to share anything you want on this thread, whether it's positive/negative, big/small!
For me, it's only small, but I think I've become a little more self confident. I think because I haven't really been around others much (except my family) there has been less opportunities for me to be self-conscious, or overthink my actions, or feel I have to act differently, and it has lead to me feeling more confident (I am not sure if it will last when I am back amongst people). Has this happened to anyone else? One more thing is that I think I've become a little more aware of my own opinions (not just on big issues, but like everyday things, or for choices I have to make) maybe because I have more time to think about things on my own rather than absorbing other's opinions straight away
Also, if you feel like you've stayed the exact same feel free to share that as well haha
(Edit: added poll)
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I mean, in general, I've remained pretty similar - introverted me incoming ah ha. I've actually enjoyed spending the extra time with family, and I'm so grateful for their company.
In a way I've been happier about myself. I'm not judged for my actions, no need to feel bad about not being invited to a get together because there is none, and so much more self confident. I've been able to do things I truly enjoy.
On a more deep level, I've learnt that there is so much in life that we can't control, and we as humans just need to make the best out of all situations we are given.
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In essence, I have not exactly changed. But there are things that I (and most people) will likely keep in mind forever, such as the importance of hygiene that has often been overlooked and is now brought to attention as a result of the current situation. Aside from the obvious things, I think that although I haven't changed, per se, I have learnt a lot of things. Like patience, because things take time and it is important to be mindful of everyone around you, and that little acts of kindness go a long way. I have also learnt how cruel society can often be, and how people will often disregard those around them to benefit themselves despite those they have condemned to suffer.
Not all is doom and gloom. ;D I think lockdown has made me appreciate my family a bit more, because I've been spending more time with them as a result of the cancellation of other events leading to more spare time on my hands. I also learnt how amazing it feels to meet friends again after weeks of staring at their pixelated faces and hearing their grainy voices through laptops and phones. I've also come to appreciate the magic teachers cast in the classroom, and although their best efforts, something that just cannot be emulated in an online setting.
Just the little things. :)
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I think this period allowed me to be really introspective about my life and support network. I’ve grown to be immensely grateful for my small group of friends, who check up on me, share random shows and casually forward memes. I’m appreciative of my family and especially my parents, who make sure to talk to us after their long at work and prioritise talking about feelings. (This seems dumb and slow, but I’ve come to realise that they are also people with their own vulnerabilities, tough days and hopes for the future, and not just my parental figures.)
I have grown a bit in self-confidence, I partially deleted Instagram, meaning the account is still there and I check for messages via my laptop but I no longer spend hours criticising and comparing myself not just in terms of appearance but mostly in terms of how much people have done at such a young age.
In terms of uni and study, for a long time, my way of thinking has been quite narrow; just figuring things out myself and not asking for help. So, when I’m stuck, I tend to spend hours trying to find a specific answer to that assignment/ question, whether that be through reading so many unnecessary research studies or watching videos and reading Quora, just to find that the protein was simply made in the liver. This changed quite a bit, this semester; I, ate some humble pie, pushed my ego down and I booked several one on one meetings with my tutors, to ask for help in the tricky areas. I’m really hoping this continues on because there’re zero disadvantages and invaluable benefits.
I think, I also have come to appreciate a good cry. During the lockdown, I have cried quite a bit before submitting an assignment and ngl, this high key helped; getting all the negative anxious feelings out and coming out fresh with a better mindset.
Overall, this has been so so but definitely has been a time of realisations and slight change. :)
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I'm a bit more sad nowadays.
Beyond that, the days blend together, and when every day feels the same, I don't think I can be introspective enough to comment if I've changed.
I'll comment again after everything is more relaxed and I can time to reflect — whenever that may be 🐢
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I mean, in general, I've remained pretty similar - introverted me incoming ah ha. I've actually enjoyed spending the extra time with family, and I'm so grateful for their company.
In a way I've been happier about myself. I'm not judged for my actions, no need to feel bad about not being invited to a get together because there is none, and so much more self confident. I've been able to do things I truly enjoy.
On a more deep level, I've learnt that there is so much in life that we can't control, and we as humans just need to make the best out of all situations we are given.
I really identify with this!! No need to feel bad about not wanting to go to social events. I'm quite happy to entertain myself most of the time. That being said, I think it's brought me back into the whole tending to withdraw from people thing which isn't great.
Was already a fan of personal space prior to the pandemic, but I think it's really made it come to the front of my mind and I'm always so conscious of it now. I used to really enjoy hugs before this and have missed them but idk if maybe this will turn me into a no hugs person in the future.
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I personally haven't really changed. As someone who already was doing virtual learning for 6 years, this feels pretty much the same as any other year. I'm not extremely introverted or extroverted, so there has been a bit of a benefit in some ways with this lockdown. I don't have to feel the pressure to catch up with people as much, all though I still try to do through skype when I can. I can't say I have enjoyed more time to myself, since my family members that are normally out of the house, are here everyday..... It's been great in that we can hang out more, but not so great as we are starting to step on each others toes.
Other than that, I do miss all of the practical learning we would have to do for some of my subjects..... so that has been the only thing I have been a bit sad about.
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Hi everyone!
I'm curious if you guys feel that being away from people has perhaps changed how you think about some things/ if you've been able to discover things about yourself/etc
Please feel free to share anything you want on this thread, whether it's positive/negative, big/small!
For me, it's only small, but I think I've become a little more self confident. I think because I haven't really been around others much (except my family) there has been less opportunities for me to be self-conscious, or overthink my actions, or feel I have to act differently, and it has lead to me feeling more confident (I am not sure if it will last when I am back amongst people). Has this happened to anyone else? One more thing is that I think I've become a little more aware of my own opinions (not just on big issues, but like everyday things, or for choices I have to make) maybe because I have more time to think about things on my own rather than absorbing other's opinions straight away
Also, if you feel like you've stayed the exact same feel free to share that as well haha
(Edit: added poll)
well, I've gotten lazier, fatter, lost motivation, and work ethic!
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I no longer know how to social.
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I think being away from people and not going to uni on campus and having less shifts at work allows me recharge my social battery. Being around many people has made me a bit mentally exhausted so it's nice to have that break.
Also I've been exercising alot during lockdown and I hope to keep this habit going when lockdown is over.
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Just a side thought.. I think especially in times like now, you get to see more of people's true colours. So, for those who are making the most of their situation and doing their best to adapt. You're a bloody ledge! 8) 8)
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Just a side thought.. I think especially in times like now, you get to see more of people's true colours. So, for those who are making the most of their situation and doing their best to adapt. You're a bloody ledge! 8) 8)
It is nice to see how some people are adapting positively, however it's also okay for people to not have a positive experience, and I don't think it defines them either way
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it's also okay for people to not have a positive experience, and I don't think it defines them either way
Very true +1 that
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Thought this thread may be of use of a bump given the lockdowns in the 2nd half of the year in VIC.
For Victoria, did you change more during the initial lockdown or the restrictions during the "2nd wave".
Also, now that we have some restrictions relaxed what changes have you noticed in this "COVID normal" environment?
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Thought this thread may be of use of a bump given the lockdowns in the 2nd half of the year in VIC.
For Victoria, did you change more during the initial lockdown or the restrictions during the "2nd wave".
Also, now that we have some restrictions relaxed what changes have you noticed in this "COVID normal" environment?
I have little memory of the whole year, in the end... combining lockdown+stuff+year 12 made for an - interesting - year memory-wise. I don't remember a lot of it, which is very weird... and now we're back to the oh-no-how-do-I-be-sociable-and-friendly-and-help-me-please feeling, for me.
Changes I have been very glad to see, personally, are mainly to do with religious gatherings being allowed (I like seeing my spiritual family again), and the redaction of masks most of the time.
So I don't know how much, if any, I changed semi-permanently. All I know is that my social skills sure took a hit (if they even existed in the first place).
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Thought this thread may be of use of a bump given the lockdowns in the 2nd half of the year in VIC.
For Victoria, did you change more during the initial lockdown or the restrictions during the "2nd wave".
Also, now that we have some restrictions relaxed what changes have you noticed in this "COVID normal" environment?
Thanks for bumping this! Also keen to hear your thoughts too Sine!
-I've gotten so used to people not being physically close, it felt weirdly confronting when someone sat directly opposite me on the train.
-I thought I moved further towards being a non-hugger person, because I felt pretty content with social distancing, but then I hugged a friend last week for the first time in ages and I was surprised that I really enjoyed it.
-Oversized hoodies=normal+comfy, normal sized hoodies=what is this and why is it not covering my butt.
-talking to myself so muchhh. Before lockdown I never would have talked out loud to myself in public, but I was at the shops the other day and words unintentionally came out of my mouth.
-Unexpectedly I'm a lot more social (but that could be uni, not lockdown).
-attention span got pretty short I reckon, but getting better again now that we are going out of lockdown. Same with phone-addiction, it is now improving as I spend time at work/ away from wifi .
-try and scrunch my eyes so people can tell I'm smiling behind mask sometimes
edit: -also I've become a lot more aware of identifying my emotions/moods
-also possible I felt like lockdown 1.0 was me thinking extra about myself (in terms of like emotions/thoughts/goals), but lockdown 2.0 I'm not really doing that as much and my attention is more outwardly focused on others/events/planning
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I have little memory of the whole year, in the end... combining lockdown+stuff+year 12 made for an - interesting - year memory-wise. I don't remember a lot of it, which is very weird... and now we're back to the oh-no-how-do-I-be-sociable-and-friendly-and-help-me-please feeling, for me.
Changes I have been very glad to see, personally, are mainly to do with religious gatherings being allowed (I like seeing my spiritual family again), and the redaction of masks most of the time.
So I don't know how much, if any, I changed semi-permanently. All I know is that my social skills sure took a hit (if they even existed in the first place).
I think it would be pretty common for people to experience like a blur. Year 12 on it's own is often a blur but doing most of it at home probably exacerbates that. Glad to see you are enjoying the alleviation of restrictions :)
-I've gotten so used to people not being physically close, it felt weirdly confronting when someone sat directly opposite me on the train.
-I thought I moved further towards being a non-hugger person, because I felt pretty content with social distancing, but then I hugged a friend last week for the first time in ages and I was surprised that I really enjoyed it.
-Oversized hoodies=normal+comfy, normal sized hoodies=what is this and why is it not covering my butt.
-talking to myself so muchhh. Before lockdown I never would have talked out loud to myself in public, but I was at the shops the other day and words unintentionally came out of my mouth.
-Unexpectedly I'm a lot more social (but that could be uni, not lockdown).
-attention span got pretty short I reckon, but getting better again now that we are going out of lockdown. Same with phone-addiction, it is now improving as I spend time at work/ away from wifi .
-try and scrunch my eyes so people can tell I'm smiling behind mask sometimes
edit: -also I've become a lot more aware of identifying my emotions/moods
-also possible I felt like lockdown 1.0 was me thinking extra about myself (in terms of like emotions/thoughts/goals), but lockdown 2.0 I'm not really doing that as much and my attention is more outwardly focused on others/events/planning
yeah I think I'm pretty used to people staying apart too ahah
Your attention span comment is interesting - I don't think mine has been impacted but would be interesting to see if anyone else has experienced that.
Also keen to hear your thoughts too Sine!
tbf I haven't experienced too much of the removal of restrictions given I had exams towards the end of November. However, I think I'm also a lot more aware of how close people tend to congregate together. I don't think I've change dramatically internally in terms of myself as a person (at least I don't think any degree of normal change was exacerbated/suppressed) but in terms of actions I think I am pretty content with social distancing, mask wearing in the future(possibly may become something people do during winters or when they are sick and need to go out?). Kinda crazy we had people go to school/work knowing they were sick (although should note some people don't really have the choice especially in terms of work). As an aside I hope companies/public services continue to do regular deep cleaning and hygiene practices even after this pandemic.
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I changed for the worst. I built up a lot of bad study habits which will be broken soon. Yeah this year was terrible for me academically.